Prophet Muhammad (SalAllaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said:
‘When Allaah wills some good towards the people of a household, He introduces kindness among them.’”
(Musnad Ahmad, 6/71; Sahih Al-Jami’, 303)

According to another report: “When Allaah loves the people of a household, He introduces kindness among them.”
(Ibn Abi Al-Dunya and others; Sahih al-Jami’, no. 1704)

In other words, they start to be kind to one another.
This is one of the means of attaining happiness in the home, for kindness is very beneficial between the spouses, and with the children, and brings results that cannot be achieved through harshness, as the Prophet (SalAllaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said: “Allaah loves kindness and rewards it in such a way that He does not reward for harshness or for anything else.”
(Sahih Muslim, no. 2592)

The Messenger of Allaah (SalAllaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) used to “sew his own clothes, mend his own shoes and do whatever other work men do in their homes.”
(Musnad Ahmad, 6/121; Sahih Al-Jami’, 4927)

This was narrated by his wife Aa'ishah (RadhiAllaahu 'anha),
when she was asked about what the Messenger of Allaah(SalAllaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) used to do in his house; her response described what she herself had seen. According to another report, she said: “He was like any other human being:
he would clean his clothes, milk his Ewe and serve himself.”
(Musnad Ahmad, 6/256; Al-Silsilat Al-Sahihah, no. 671)

She was also asked about what the Messenger of Allaah (SalAllaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) used to do in his house, and she said, “He used to serve his family, then when the time for prayer came, he would go out to pray.”

Being affectionate towards and joking with the members of the family is a praiseworthy trait. Showing affection towards one’s wife and children is one of the things that leads to creating an atmosphere of happiness and friendliness in the home. The ways in which the Prophet (SalAllaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) showed affection towards young children are too well-known to need mentioning. He often used to show his affection towards his grandchildren – Hasan and Hussain (may Allah be pleased with them). This is probably one of the reasons why the children used to rejoice when he would come back from traveling; they would rush to welcome him, as reported in a Sahih Hadith: “Whenever he came back from a journey, the children of his household would be taken out to meet him.”

Kindness in general helps build a strong and coherent society spreading love and affection amongst Muslims.
May Allaah Subhanahu wa ta'ala fill our homes will kindness and contentment and may He join us among those whom He loves, Aameen!


Kalonji Balm